It can be scary to talk about money, but once you do it and can put into place a plan that works for both you and your husband, you’ll find it easier to get through any challenges that come your way in the future.
If you’re resentful of the money that goes to your husband’s children, you’re going to have a major problem. They are a part of his life, and you have to realize that he has a responsibility to help them become successful adults. And now that you’re a stepparent, you get to share some of that responsibility.
Instead of thinking about what you don’t have because it’s going to finance decisions he made in his past life, why not instead think about how you’re contributing to your stepchildren’s well-being? Those kids need to be surrounded by healthy adults, and that includes being emotionally healthy about financial matters. Or you could do what Mary did and not marry your man until the kids are out of the house.
Then, at least, you won’t have to deal with the daily expenses of raising children. Some women choose this route and it works for them, but remember: Just because the kids are out of the house doesn’t mean there won’t be expenses your partner may have to pay for, such as college tuitions and weddings.
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