If you think the court system is going to resolve issues, it’s a mistake. It’s too slow, too impersonal, too overworked. There’s no way they’ll get a true picture of what’s going on.” The children stayed with their mother until they were old enough to say for themselves that they wanted to live with Sue and Matt.
Prior to that, they were able to see the children every month even though they lived far away. The child support payment fights had the same bonding effect on Tracy and Andrew. Three months after the couple married, Andrew lost his job and could no longer afford the high payments. He went back to court with his ex battling over custody and child support. “There was a lot of ugliness that I didn’t anticipate. Suddenly this person, this ex, who up until that point had been really peripheral, was running into my life and causing all hell to break loose. One thing we learned from that year was that we are both able to handle an immense amount of stress together.”
The entire first year of psychologist Sarah’s marriage to her husband was lost in a fog of sadness for Sarah while her husband was wrapped up in a bitter custody battle with his ex for their two children. At first, Sarah says, she fought the good fight alongside her husband. But eventually she realized their new marriage was virtually neglected because her husband was so fueled by his anger at the ex that he could hardly concentrate on anything else.
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