Before Kathy could begin the process of forgiving Billy and healing her marriage, she needed to understand what forgiveness was and what it would mean to forgive her husband. After we started talking about the nature of forgiveness, she was finally able to let go of some of her resentment so that she and Billy could discuss their current relationship and help it get back on track. Continue reading »
A Story about Forgiveness (3)
A Story about Forgiveness (2)
At our first appointment, I learned that Billy had stopped drinking about two years earlier, for health reasons. His doctor had bluntly told him that if he continued to drink he was a dead man.
Kathy was furious with Billy for his years of alcohol abuse, and for the first three sessions she angrily described to me how awful their life had been during his drinking years. She filled the room with complaints about his parenting and his irresponsible behavior. Continue reading »
A Story about Forgiveness (1)
Everybody thinks they know what it is to forgive, but the truth is that many people are unclear about what forgiveness actually is. They form their understanding of forgiveness from old church sermons or from snippets of information in magazines or movies. Continue reading »
Forgive for Love Quiz (Answer)
If you answered yes to:
0–2: You are doing a good job of keeping resentment at bay and can successfully manage the normal disagreements of a relationship. You need this book only if you are in a new relationship to prepare for issues that have yet to surface. Or you need this book if you are going through a particularly good patch but have had some issues in the past. There is no bad time to learn the skills of forgiveness. Continue reading »
Forgive for Love Quiz
Please answer yes or no to the following questions.
- Are there some things about your partner that regularly bug you? Yes No
- Do you find yourself verbally expressing frustration with your partner even when they aren’t present? Yes No Continue reading »


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